Jazzy Talk- Relationships... Are you Jealous of the "friend" ?

" I think I'm jealous of your girlfriend, Although she's just a girl that is your friend.:" - Alicia Keys

Do you ever find yourself jealous of the type of relationship that your man or woman has with that special friend of the opposite sex? Maybe sometimes reading their messages on facebook or going through your bf/gf's phones just to make sure there isn't anything else going on besides a friendship? Well the truth is many people go through this sort of thing all the time in relationships. The real question few may wonder is, Is it ok for your man or woman to have friends of the opposite sex while in relationships. And should your boyfriend or girlfriend be jealous over the friend.

I believe that when you're in a relationship it is fine to have friends of the opposite sex. Whenever I am in a relationship with a man I feel that is ok for my boyfriend to have female friends BUT in order for that to work there must be some sort of boundaries that both my boyfriend and I can agree too.

Here are My 3 main rules of friends of the opposite sex:

1.  Set Boundaries.  When two people are in a committed relationship there should be boundaries and rules from the beginning but especially when it comes to dealing with friends of the opposite sex.  One rule that I have is for female friends and male friends not call or come by past a certain time. You gotta make sure you set time aside each day for your man or your woman that is just for the two of you, no texts no calls.

2. Know Your Partners Friends.  Now this doesn't mean that when you meet your boyfriend's female friends that you get to rolling the neck and pointing your finger talking about " If you mess with my man....... " NO! How about you and your man have a little get together, he invite his friends, she invites her friends, both male and female friends. And everybody get to know one another, then you can decide from there if you can deal with those "special friends" or not. If you believe you can't deal with your partners friends then baby, hit the road jack and never go back. Unless you are someone worth holding on to in your partners mind, those friends will still  be there 9 times outta 10 so you gotta be able to deal with those friends.

3. Trust. Trust your boyfriend or girlfriend when they tell you those "special friends" are just friends. If someone reason you  believe in your heart it is something else going on, then get out of the relationship. This can stir up jealousy that can lead to an unhealthy relationship.


How do you feel about your boyfriend or girlfriend having friends of the opposite sex? Voice your opinion in a comment below.